Pointing Out The Obvious

Seneca had a great response: “People say: ‘What good does it do to point out the obvious?’ A great deal of good; for we sometimes know facts without paying attention to them. Advice . .  . merely engages the attention and rouses us, and concentrates the memory, and keeps it from losing its grip. We miss […]


Moving Beyond Past Experience Into Something New

And when those people reflect on their suffering, they often uncover a similar truth: that struggle helped them to build deep reservoirs of strength. Not all growth happens this way. But a great deal of our growth does come when we put our shoulder into what’s painful. We choose to, or have to, step beyond […]


Leaning Into Pain to Find Healing and Life

But “frontline” isn’t just a military term. You have a frontline in your life now. In fact, everyone has a place where they encounter fear , where they struggle, suffer, and face hardship. We all have battles to fight. And it’s often in those battles that we are most alive : it’s on the frontlines […]


What Are You Doing With The Deck You’ve Been Dealt?

The problems at night may have a little to do with the past, but they have a lot more to do with what you are choosing to do in the present. Greitens, Eric (2015-03-10). Resilience: Hard-Won Wisdom for Living a Better Life (Kindle Locations 93-94). Houghton Mifflin Harcourt. Kindle Edition. I work with addicts and […]


Relationships are Not Effecient

Quality time is important. Being actively engaged with our children in their schoolwork or their activities or by simply reading a book is important. But they need quantity time, too, and lots of it. Even if there’s nothing special on the agenda, they need to know that we’ve chosen to be in the room or […]